A Letter from Aunty Dora:Team member, Man in me Girls Garage Boys Garage.

Dear Parents, 

I am writing to you today with a deep sense of care and concern for the well-being of our children. As parents, we all want the best for our kids, and we strive to guide them with love and wisdom. However, I feel it’s important to reflect on how we communicate with them, as the way we pass on messages can have a profound impact on their emotional and mental health. 

The Just Concluded Edition.

After having one on ones with your children at the boys and the girls garage, there has been growing concern about how certain communication styles may unintentionally lead to feelings of resentment, frustration, or even despair in our children. When messages are delivered with harshness, criticism, or a lack of understanding, children may feel unheard, unloved, or overwhelmed. Over time, these feelings can build up, leading to emotional distress and, in some tragic cases, even self-harm or suicide. 

This is not to place blame but to encourage us all to pause and reflect. Our words and tone carry immense weight. Children, especially during their formative years, are highly sensitive to how they are spoken to. They need to feel supported, valued, and understood, even when we are guiding or correcting them. 

Here are a few suggestions to have healthier communication: 

1. Listen First: Take time to truly listen to your child’s thoughts and feelings without judgment. Let them know their voice matters. 

2. Choose Empathy: Try to see things from their perspective. Acknowledge their struggles and validate their emotions. 

3. Use Encouraging Words: Focus on positive reinforcement rather than criticism. Celebrate their efforts, not just their achievements. 

4. Be Patient: Avoid reacting in anger or frustration. Take a moment to calm down before addressing sensitive issues. 

5. Create a Safe Space: Let your child know they can come to you with anything, free from fear of harsh judgment or punishment. 

Our children are navigating a complex and often overwhelming world. They need us to be their anchors, their safe place. By having open, loving, and respectful communication, we can help them feel valued and supported, reducing the risk of emotional distress and building a stronger, healthier relationship with them. 

Let’s work together to create an environment where our children feel loved, heard, and understood. If you ever feel unsure about how to approach a situation, don’t hesitate to seek guidance or support. We are all in this together, and our children’s well-being is worth every effort. 

With care

Aunty Dora

Team member ,Man in me

Girls Garage

Boys Garage